Both Monica Rude Gallegos, independent counselor, and I decided to join forces and answer frequently asked questions. The most common one is how to avoid mistakes.
We both agreed that students trying to do everything never works.
For most teenagers, doing everything just isn’t possible. There are only twenty-four hours in a day, and most of those are taken up by school and homework. Your time is valuable and you don’t want to spend it on things that don’t bring you joy.
If you get in the car to go to soccer practice and your heart sinks, it might be time to quit. Letting go of things if you don’t like them anymore is more than okay. Focus on finding what brings joy to your child, support their interests, and let them be good at what they really like doing (yes, even if that thing they love is playing in a jam band that you think is beyond silly).
You can change and pivot
Checklist of doing all the things vs. doing what you want (community service)
Focus on what you can control
Listen to your child
Kids become obsessed with doing everything, which isn’t sustainable. (Pain and suffering for no reason...this doesn’t necessarily get you into college.) “Angular students” are okay!